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#storiedTYM • November 11, 2010
Story Bleed Magazine’s first ever open twitter chat with our Editors.
Celebrating the announcement of our new Editorial staff.
Sponsored by Procter & Gamble’s Thank You Mom.
Selected transcribed tweets represent some of our favorite moments during our one hour public chat with the Story Bleed Editors, a discussion that focused on the art and process of writing. Evidenced by the enthusiastic turnout and engagement, our community craves exploration of the craft of writing. We look forward to you joining us for our next #storied chat with the Editors!
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Reading stream from @
storybleed Editors Chat last night, completely in awe of writers’ community blogging creates.
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Wow. A hearty round of applause to the @
StoryBleed crew for the discussion tonight. I feel emboldened & inspired.
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I write because I feel the inherent need to share my experiences and misery with others, no matter how trite
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I writw 2 allow ppl 2 read the story behind my paintings. Art is so more 2 me than the paint. thr is always a story behind it.
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Thank you to @
storybleed and gang for starting a great conversation about writing. I hope it’s only the beginning.
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Now. Where is the WRITING conference? Where we leave the talk of money and brand behind?
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Loved the
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#storiedTYM so many amazing voices, so much to learn, now that it’s slowed down somebody tell me how to save this – please and thank you
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And now, thanks to @
storybleed & P&G I have a gazillion more fab women I need to follow + a couple dudes. Ack!
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Great job @
storybleed . You definitely made me want more.
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I’m so inspired and renewed now- thank you guys!
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Big love for P&G for supporting our community of writers.Learn more about Thank You Mom writing contest www.thankyoumom.com
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@
storybleed Pieced together from RT’s: Merciless Beautiful Courage–for whatever YOUR story is.
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Writers rock my world. I can’t imagine not having this community of creatives.
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debontherocks This is why I try to be kind and generous w/my knowledge when it comes to new bloggers. We were all there once.
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I write because I honestly think I’d be institutionalized long-term if I didn’t have the outlet.
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I write b/c it’s the best/only way I can know myself and make sense of life as it happens.
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CrunchyCarpets Every open wound eventually heals. No matter how many times you pick the scab. Scar just gets tougher.
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We need to read more. Writers need readers, on and offline, and in our homes.
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@
mrlady I have a “mother’s notebook” that is always with me. Never know when I’ll be inspired.
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I write because I want to remember the little things and how I felt about them. Writing also helps me sort out my thoughts.
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The beauty of writing isn’t in who will read it or if it will bring success.It’s all abt the process & the way it changes me.
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I like writing to preserve history. I’m blessed with a great legacy-I want to pass it on.
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Hard 2 b a creative person. Creativity is so subjective. That’s why we’re like moths 2 the flame when it comes 2 peer support
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I love that in this hour discussion no one beat the word “authentic” to death.
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@
schmutzie I’d been blocked for years. Now I never take for granted the ability to hit a button & bam, published. So cool.
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Our hour is up. THANK YOU! We are beside ourselves.
#storiedTYM is fabulously yours! We are inspired. Listening still.
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StoryBleed I think by writing w/honesty & integrity it allows us to b vulnerable & fosters tryst & relationships
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LilacCityMomma write for yourself. It’s the only way to be honest. Honesty is the only thing readers will respond to.
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StoryBleed Sharing our thoughts in written form preserves them; it’s a beautiful treasure for our children…& theirs.
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I love helping new bloggers find the resources that compel them to connect more. It actually reinvigorated me, too.
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Beautiful chats with beautiful writers-thank you editors of @
storybleed and P&Gs Thank You Mom Campaign! East coast girl to bed.
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barbarajones guess that’s where an offline journal still works. You can only be so honest online and not hurt others.
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Honestly, anything I’ve ever written that I’ve been proud of, I’ve written for free.
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You can help others feel empowered by reading what they have to say. Not critiquing, just reading
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Writing allows me to be me when the moms at the bus stop don’t.
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@
StoryBleed By respecting ourselves and each other enough to not pander or manipulate, but to build up and support.
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I’ve always been a writer. Blogging gave me a medium to immediately publish, & colleagues/community, which was a nice surprise.
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IlinaP @
mrlady So grateful when I get a paycheck for something I write. But love nothing more than writing for free for me.
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i think processing through your experience in words brings a clarity that can’t be attained any other way.
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I write because it seems more sane than talking to myself.
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I’ve found that telling my story invites others to share theirs, if only with me. It gets things out in the open.
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@
StoryBleed By being honest & authentic ourselves. Lead by example. Ask questions. Encourage and support new bloggers/writers.
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I have a story to tell. I wish I wasn’t so scared to share it.
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I write because it is awkward to be the only one laughing
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@
storybleed I think by quantifying that there IS no perfect story–no perfect storyteller. The beauty is in the raw.
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Sweet mercy, am I the only one or has this hour for
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StoryBleed FLOWN faster than a speeding bullet?
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I write b/c I just can’t leave it well enough alone. I write b/c I like to make noise. I write b/c I might make some sense.
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Need more! rt@ritaarens: I came in here to fix a few things before I leave to go out of town, but you guys sucked me in. Wow.
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mrlady @
MrsLoulou I try not to take it too seriously, believe it will pass, surrender to the quiet and then BOOM-inspiration.
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Sometimes I walk away and forget about the blog to get out of a funk. Other times I write to find the source of the funk.
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I wish I had started blogging when I was pregnant w/ my daughter 8 yrs ago. It would be great to look back now on the insanity.
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Best way to get out of a blog funk is to close your laptop! Experience friends/family/Creation/new things/LIFE! cc: @
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I think @
storybleed may have just started a writer’s club, or forum, or salon, or something …
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Sometimes, as someone who needs to keep my day job, I find the combination of trying to write honestly a real challenge.
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Finally (bc wow, ya’ll, hour’s up): How can we encourage others to feel empowered to write their stories?
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I write because it is my chronic diagnosis; compulsive. I catalog snapshots so that others can know they’re not alone.
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#storiedtym thank you to so many of my most favorite writers for your inspiring tweets…ur getting me thru my 8 hr car ride
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i used to write about everything; then worried i was repeating the same sad story. i stopped. then i realized it didn’t matter.
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As someone wise once said, Truth is Beauty. But how do you face everyday life once you’ve spilled your ugly/beautiful truth?
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I write because words and thoughts and regrets and wins will choke me until I let them out. I acknowledge them so I can sleep.
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MrsLoulou A redesign helps, sometimes a short break helps. But mostly I find just pushing through and writing works best.
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MollyinMinn it’s like i can’t help it any more. and i’m ALWAYS in the shower when the best lines come to me
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#storiedTYM I write because it is how I process what is going on in my life.
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Satisfaction from good writing only barely edges out the dread I feel when starting. Writing is hard, yet I feel compelled.
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I write in order to process my life, and yours, and our life together.
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I am LOVING the depth of insight/wisdom/honesty/wit ETC to this conversation. You all are total rock stars. Thank you.
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Having lost my mom when I was 9, there’s SO much I wish I could ask her! WRITE FOR YOUR CHILDREN! Not necessarily ABOUT them tho
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I don’t know why I write just that I need to…
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I write because people won’t talk about the things I’m wrestling with. I have to get it out, and others are searching too.
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Adversity introduces a man to himself. -unknown (should’ve been “woman)
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@
FeelsLikeHome I speak to myself in my head, narrating my story as though I’m writing it. I thought I was the only one.
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The importance of writing needs to be passed down. I write – not just blog. My 7 year old has started writing stories daily.
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I’ve pretty much been an open book except for one thing which I’ve not yet blogged. Maybe one day.
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I write because I can’t not write. I know; I’ve tried it.
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Writing can fuel a revolution, big and small. I’m proud to have contributed to my own fights (ahem, Wake Cty school board).
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if i didn’t write, my head would explode. there’s only so much room for all these thoughts, emotions, feelings & experiences.
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#storiedTYM I write to save the strangers, family, cats, inanimate objects, who would have to listen to my ramblings, from untold suffering.
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I write because I like to look back and remember. And because it’s therapeutic for me.
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I write to release passion and at times frustrations. I jot notes & ideas all throughout the day & journal.
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I write to make sense of it all… to release it & to look back & be able to laugh &/or cry about it. But mostly, I type.
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i write because i don’t know who i am without it. i inhertied that from my mother, & suspect my kids will get it from me
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@
Greeblemonkey It’s been a lifelong thing for me. The blog just gave me a crazy immediate, interactive outlet for it.
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I write for an outlet because I write better than I talk and also ’cause I feel it’s easier for people to read on their own time
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I write because it breaks me down, heals me, builds me back up and shapes me. I write because it makes me feel so much better.
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Reading stories is bearing witness. RT@
Viviborne: Most importantly, I read your work because you spoke.
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Circus knife throwers know it is indeed possible to be perfect. John Gardner Writing prof gave me that one.
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I write to make a difference, and in hope of having some influence- I don’t feel like I have any with people IRL.
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I find the people who think themselves most incapable of being serious do it the best.
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Writing is cathartic, regardless the audience or PR pitches that come from it. The rewards for me are not monetary (yet).
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I write for me. I write for my audience too. But mostly I write for me. It’s like breathing, it’s something I have to do.
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If ever I need writing inspiration, I read Jane Eyre or Anna Karenina. I generally find myself much more lyrical afterward.
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“I do things like get in a taxi and say, “The library, and step on it.” -David Foster Wallace
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Most importantly, I read your work because you spoke.
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BusyDadBlog I don’t hide. I stand straight and let my fear seep out of me from my wounds until I’m healed.
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i am just watching in awe over here, too scared to try and throw my half a cent in
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Whenever people ask me my goal, I tell them (honestly) that I just want my kids to hear my voice someday.
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Because I know what it is like to have words abounding from your soul and wonder if anyone hears you.
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I make an effort to be in the moment, spent too much time writing posts in my head and missing out on actual experiences.
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Although I’ve never had a blog schedule, by any means, I often find myself searching for life stories to share.
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I write because I can’t afford therapy. It’s also nice to be my own best audience.
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Greeblemonkey which is why I am so careful of how I speak of my children online. I want them to know every day was a gift.
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I write because my kids get sick of me talking to myself.
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I write because I want to make myself and others feel heard.
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Greeblemonkey I write for my kids as well. I want to leave a tangible legacy. I also write because it’s just plain fun!
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I write on no man’s schedule. I write when my heart insists it and the emotions bubble forth.
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I’m writing for myself. Not for my kids. Not for my memories. Not for my audience. Even though these are all great things.
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Never in a million years, will I consider myself a writer. I purge my feelings through the pages. Without a second glance.
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Early on, an academic said I (& others) were pioneering “a new literature.” I took it to heart. So should you.
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@
mamabearping i started writing every day. I update less, but I think my quality is much better. I’d rather resonate.
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I’m trying to keep up with
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@
mrlady For me, I am leaving a trail for Declan to follow and really know me.
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Wow,
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I write because it keeps me thinking, growing, laughing, and most of the time, sane.
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We all have stories to tell. Hence we all can be storytellers. Is believing we are writers such a great stretch?
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i write because often the words are just stuck in my head. and my husband gets sick of me talking (aka processing)
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I write to see if I CAN. Not sure when you ever get that answer.
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Sometimes writing a story “out loud” stops the haunting inside
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@
StoryBleed As I even walk down the road, I’m describing the scene to myself, as I would write it, how some people count steps.
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I need to write the way I need to breathe.it keeps me alive.it’s how I digest and survive my experiences
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I write because I have to. If I don’t I get all cranky, like a runner who needs to run. (Of course I’d pick the sedentary task.)
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As more of a reader, less of a writer, I love watching a newer writer/blogger blossom and hit stride- must feel amazing
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@
StoryBleed writing does change how I see the world, I think. Or how I see the world wants to be written. Chicken or egg?
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As a writer I find that writing frees the snapshots frozen in my head. When I write, the snapshots begin to move and take life.
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@
BusyDadBlog dude, I talk about dead kids, stolen foster babies and getting beat up by my daddy. Write your story.
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debontherocks I write because my husband gets tired of hearing me say it. Then I realize I need a larger audience.
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Uh oh…I’m about to get off and I just think I missed something big with
#storiedTYM. Gosh why don’t I see these twitter parties comin?!?
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100% RT @
StoryBleed: Does writing change the way you metabolize your life? Do you absorb experiences differently?
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StoryBleed It absolutely does. Everytime I want to write about my children, I think of how they hope that I see them…
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B/c I promised myself not to compromise honesty in writing, I’ve learned to be honest in other parts of my life. It’s freeing.
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My wish: I want everyone who writes to be able to I AM A WRITER. Then to shout it.
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mrlady I like that. “Look, this is how it is.” That’s what I’ve ended up doing, but not without lots of pushback.
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That struggle: “Am I a writer?” comes most often when I am trying to live up to the invisible. Bad writing nearly always ensues.
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I have a personal story I’ve never had the balls to write. Since I cannot make fun of it. Inspired to try.
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Im still scared to write sometimes in the fear of how others will then perceive me.
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Anyone who remains unconvinced that blogging can be a legitimate, artful, and considered form of narrative needs to tune into
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I’m loving the inspiration I’m getting from all the writers on Twitter tonight!
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RT @
IveyLeagueMama: Yes! Just like photography. I see things differently because I’m looking for small details in life.
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StoryBleed I metabolize life so much better when I string words into sentences into paragraphs. Makes sense then.
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I write because I learn a little something about myself each time I do….
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MrsLoulou It’s a crippling place to be, fearful to write. If I couldn’t write on my own blog, I’d move it & start over. Really.
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Sometimes I see RL through a bloggy lens. Even my friends will say, ‘oh blog this!’ or ‘you can blog that!’ Steps back are nec.
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Issascrazyworld But for people who have experienced what you have experienced, my guess is your story can be rich and healing.
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Does writing change the way you metabolize your life? Do you absorb experiences differently?
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What is
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@
birdonthestreet that’s definitely the hope. It’s hard to put yourself out there and hope for connection. It’s a leap of faith
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@
storybleed Its easy to be the Picasso word slinger-far harder to write with careful strokes + form a picture everyone can see.
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Writing helps me process. Sometimes I don’t even know what I’m feeling until I get it out.
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“I metabolize my life differently now.” – @
onecraftyellie (when talking about how blogging/writing help her to see grace, etc)
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@
playgroupie I just moved my desk next to my bed. That’s helped tons for some reason. prolly bc reminds me of my college dorm
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I have to ask myself often why I write my blog. The answer keeps changing.
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I feel, therefore I write. I write to remember to feel. Tis my circle.
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#storiedTYM head is spinning … so much info … tiny brain struggling to keep up
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Love seeing so many beautiful friends talk ‘storytelling’ tonight –
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Writing with people I know in mind is paralyzing. I have to try not to think about them or I can’t get it out.
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it seems that some of the most commented on posts are the ones that i’ve ultimately written for myself though.
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Anybody having a hard time considering themselves a “writer”? I do. Guess it’s ’cause I’m not poetic and literary.
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I cannot believe how quickly this hour is FLYING! We need an ongoing Skype room for
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@
mrlady my husband says he doesn’t read my blog, says ‘it’s my thing.’ That makes me sad he won’t share my stories.
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Love: “A writer’s brain is like a magician’s hat. If ur going to get anything out of it, you have to put something in it 1st”
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At the end of writing an entry I often find that it’s no longer about me but a larger thought or understanding. It’s meditative.
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@
graceduffy Helping readers find themselves in perspectives they never would have considered is one of our magazine’s goals!
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I am loving all the beauty coming out of the
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There’s such a fine line between writing FOR an audience and writing universally enough that an audience cares.
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We’re 1/2 way thru editor chat w @
StoryBleed sponsored by P&G Thank You Mom campaign! Discussing writing, join us!
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I write to sort things out and sometimes to experience them more fully. Other times to let them go.
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What do you use for inspiration? For me: music, art, crafting, laughing, beach walking, reading (books)
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I write because I experience or notice something and it burrows in. It slaps me around. It says: write me! Dammit!
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If I don’t write, there is a distinct possibility I might not exist. At least, that’s how it feels sometimes.
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When I write a post I never remember I have an audience until after I press publish.
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Yes, what @
amyturnsharp said! We are lucky. We live in a time where technology is allowing storytelling to triumph again.
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StoryBleed @
mrlady I work opposite direction. I have 1st sentence or title then the rest flows out. End is a surprise. To me!
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@
schmutzie that is clearly the ideal, but don’t we ALL write for others to some degree? Otherwise, we’d keep journals
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I used to write so regularly, words so easily spilled. With greater time restraints I improvise and write notes on my phone.
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@
amberrunsamuck sometimes raw is needed for myself and I wonder if it’s inspired because someone else needs to hear it too?
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the catalyst that gets me to start writing is usually when I have more than a couple solid ideas about the subject.
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How do you weave the more serious posts into your blog? Is their a formula for this? I need it.
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StoryBleed I will get a sense of panic/butterflies until I get my idea out & sense of calm when I am done, published or not.
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I have an obsession with reading that which is outside my demo. I want to be inspired to understand, not just reply.
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lauriewrites yeah, I think blog writing can be non-audience centered and connect, in a peeking into personal processes way.
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storybleed Once I resolve the post, I write the final sentence, then work my way back up through it.
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When I finally write a post that’s been simmering a while, it’s b/c its READY to be told; I can’t NOT tell ‘em any longer
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debontherocks Reading outside yr demographic is good, but I find reading non-blogs is better, more broadening.
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Cecilyk We are all so lucky to read each other.How has everything converged. Writing is back in my life since finding blogging.
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StoryBleed If it just won’t leave me alone. Can’t stop the writing thoughts. And time. When I find time
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storybleed Just the burn to get it out there. To gain clarity for myself and hopefully someone else along the way.
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VelveteenMind IDK sometimes if something is MY story to tell or if I’m just on the periphery, even though it’s still my life.
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I almost always finally start the post when I find an image that goes with it. I upload the image, and away we go.
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I sit and write when there’s no other way to get my head to be quiet. That’s when I know something NEEDS to be written.
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We are bloggers as we are writers, constantly composing in our heads. What makes you finally start the post? Your catalyst?
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RT @
mrlady: I filter much more now than I did in the beginning. I try to respect my story enough to honor it with consideration.
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Music is a great primer to my writing. I have a soundtrack to each year of my life and it is married to what I wrote that year.
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The essence of good writing and caring for your audience is LISTENING to that heart-gut.
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StoryBleed I filter much more now than I did in the beginning. I try to respect my story enough to honor it with consideration.
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I have shared only half of my stories so far…
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Our editor @
HeatheroftheEO writes a lot ab “heart gut.” If that refers to instinct, how much filter do you allow to encroach?
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@
mooshinindy Stories you feel are raw you often find are actually mutual experiences with so many others.
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@
storybleed I just wish everyone would realize we are more alike than different in our hopes and dreams.
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Do you think there’s a difference between writing “honest” and writing “raw” ?? (Is it okay to ask questions here?
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Writing from the heart resonates with *more* readers when you consider the audience and shape it for them.
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Looks like the who’s who of Twitterland is at
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StoryBleed I think we do have to pull back enough to make the story safe for others to relate to.
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As writers, do we have a responsibility to shape our writing to help our audience relate? What if we don’t?
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RT @
PensieveRobin: My goal is to share the feeling of the story, so readers can see it through my eyes, not to talk at ‘em.
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“Find yourself where stories blur the lines” is our motto. How do you ensure your personal writing resonates w broader audience?
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Wow! We’re talking about writing! Excellent.
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Welcome to Story Bleed’s 1st twitter chat w our editors! Our indulgent
#storiedTYM writing chat sponsored by P&G’s Thank You Mom campaign.
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